After everything I’ve been through to get back to feeling sane, I feel like I’ve reached a point where I’ve accepted the circumstances of life. Rather than gripe and complain about how much better life could be, I focus on what I actually can control – which, come to find out, is pretty much everything.
If you feel like you need to be reminded that life is actually in your control, here are 4 truthbombs to remind you that you’re in fact very much in charge.
1. Lack is a myth. Your life is full of abundance.
“Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance.”
– Eckhart Tolle
In a competitive world, it’s hard to reprogram your thinking to believe that there actually is more than enough to go around for everyone. But in order to attract more abundance into your life, you need to start focusing on what is already good about your life – even if the only thing you can find to be grateful about is the simple fact that you are alive.
When you pay your bills (which we all have to do) instead of feeling bitter about not being able to do fun things with it, repeat this mantra, “I have more than enough money for everything I want.” Say this often enough, and you’ll soon find that you’ll have extra money that you cannot explain.
Yes! I started doing this a few years ago and ever since then, I’ve always had more than enough money for not just emergency expenses, but to do things that I want to do. How’s that for controlling your finances!
2. It’s a waste of energy to resist what’s right in front of you.
“Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it.”
– Eckhart Tolle
When sh*t happens (and it will), don’t get upset about it. Put on your best poker face and just do whatever you need to do to remedy the situation.
Over time, I’ve realized that I react less and less to dramatic, negative events. It’s hard for me to say exactly how I’ve evolved to this state, but I think that practicing focusing on just what’s in front of me, or what’s happening today, has been a key part in this. I’ve retrained my mind to only use up energy for current events rather than allowing it to wander and stress about what happened in the past or what could potentially happen in the future.
As a result, I’ve noticed less and less sh*tty events, plus I feel much more in control of my emotions.
The only moment you have is right now. Pay attention to how often your mind wanders to the past or future. When you catch it wandering away from right now, bring your attention back. Tell yourself something like, “Right now is perfect. There are no problems to solve right now.”
Once you can convince yourself that there aren’t any problems (just the made-up ones because, um, that’s what the brain does), you’ll naturally feel more in control over your life.
3. No one else can tell you how to feel about your life.
“Instead of worrying about what you cannot control, shift your energy to what you can create.”
– Roy T. Bennett
The way that you react to life is in your control. You’ve learned how to react to good and bad news by watching others as you grew up. But now that you’re grown, understand that you can choose to react differently. You can choose to shift your energy in a more positive direction. Just because something crappy happened to you doesn’t mean you have to feel crappy about it 24/7.
And, just so you know, it actually takes more energy to stay pissed off than it does to just let it go.
Sure, people will try and do things to annoy you on purpose sometimes, to rise a reaction out of you. But you don’t have to play along. Your attitude only affects yourself (and your body), plus what you attract. Make a conscious effort to watch how you react to others and do not allow yourself to absorb the negativity thrown your way.
When around someone who’s trying to push your buttons, say to yourself, “They’re attitude has nothing to do with me. I’m in control of my feelings.”
4. Your mindset could be holding you back from living the life you’ve been dreaming of
“Life does not control you. What you believe about it, does.”
– Alan Cohen
Your mind not only controls how you feel, but it controls how you behave. Your mind is in control of everything that you say and do. And your mind is even in control of the energy it sends out to the universe.
So, what is your mind saying to the world? How have you allowed your mind to control you?
Is your mind telling you that you’re worthy of greatness or is it telling you that you’ll never succeed?
Choosing to believe the negative crap your mind says is just like handing your car keys over to someone who is a horrible driver. You know you should drive, but you’ve somehow been convinced that it doesn’t matter who drives the car. For some reason, you think life is going to suck either way so you might as well ride shot gun and blame everything on your mind.
I mean, honestly, it does sound tempting to check out and let someone else handle things, even if it means risking your life.
But you do realize how ridiculous this sounds, right?
Understand that the master game plan of your mind (aka your ego) is to make sure that you sabotage the mission that you’ve been set out to accomplish in this life. So, you’re mind is going to do all that it can to control your thoughts by putting doubts in there to stop you from trusting your gut instincts or the feelings of your heart.
The sooner you can tell your mind to take a backseat, the sooner you’ll be able to get back in control of your thoughts.
Feel free to add your own truthbombs below or on Instagram and tag me (@lifesparkwithlauren).