“Eighty percent of women have self-deprecating thoughts about themselves (body image, job performance, other people’s opinion of them, etc.) throughout the day.” – Statistic found in the book The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod
In my childhood, it was deeply ingrained in me that going to school and getting a good education would lead to a career. Naturally, I felt as though I succeeded when I completed college, only to have my dreams squashed when my resume was overlooked by many.
The best way I can describe how it feels is to relate it to being picked last for a team sport. Or how it must feel to flunk a test (I never did. I was an honor graduate.)
No matter how well prepared, I was never chosen.
I want to make a difference in this world and while I love my children to death, just being a homemaker is not my dream. And I believe the dreams I have were not put there by mistake or coincidence. A dear friend used to remind me that if there’s a dream in your heart, God put it there and because He put it there, He will help see it to fruition.
And I believe her.
Except, sometimes that little voice inside my head doesn’t want to give up control and it doesn’t want me to full-fill my dreams and live up to my God-given potential. On a regular basis, that voice reminds me that I have failed before, time and time again.
However, I have to remind myself that so did every other successful person on this planet!! Without failure, there would be no success and I’d rather say I failed than to regret not having tried.
There is hope
I read an eye-opening book in April 2017 that I feel helped me combat my fear of failure and it mentioned something startling. It pointed out that 95% of us settle and don’t push ourselves to reach our dreams and true desires.
That’s a lot of people giving up on their dreams, which probably means I’ll run into many more people who are unhappy with their lives than people who are oozing happiness. It basically means that how I’ve felt is normal or average.
I’m so over being average
To protect myself from people who will try to convince me that it’s okay for me to settle, I’ve decided to put blinders on. I must have a clear focus on what I want so that I can do whatever needs to be done to get there! Otherwise, the voices in my head will win and tell me that I’m a failure.
I know, without a doubt, that I’m not a failure
I was born for greatness.
The Lord said so and He said I will do great things and that I will! The world may not have chosen me, but God chose me and He put a dream in my heart, a vision of greatness, and a purpose to help and motivate others.
I refuse to allow my mind to brainwash me into believing otherwise! I refuse to let society tell me to conform and be satisfied with mediocrity!
I will overcome and I will succeed so that when I meet my Father, I can proudly tell him that we did it together!
What fears are holding you back from living your best life?
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Oh, one more thing
Once I stood firm and made that decision to stand up and own my life for everything I’ve been given, to overcome my fear of failure, my life changed. If you’d like to learn more about my journey of healing, I invite you to subscribe to The Vital Spark and get my ebook “Life Spark: How to Overcome Stress, Anxiety & Feelings of Low Worth” as my free gift. You can use the form below or click here to learn more.